On Divorce

by Kimberly Hickok

I guess I’m lucky. I was married for about 15 years to a really nice guy. We just weren’t the best match for each other. But I really like him as a person and we are still friends.

I believe you can get along with your ex after the divorce.

In fact, our son, J, was performing at a special event this past New Year’s Eve. J plays the cello and his dad, who lives about 4 hours away, doesn’t get to see most of his concerts. So, the ex, his wife and their two daughters spent New Year’s with us.

And, they stayed overnight at our house. I hope that’s not too Jerry Springer-ish for you!

But we all had a really good time. We went to J’s concert (he plays the cello), came home and put the little ones to bed and watched the ball drop in Times Square on TV. We drank champagne, had hors d’oeuvres and a wonderful time.

The next morning we slept in, had brunch and they went on their merry way.

After they left, I asked J if it was weird having us all together. J said that it made his life easier and that he’s just glad to have so many people in his life that care about each other get along.

Divorce doesn’t have to totally suck . . .

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Jenny C. April 20, 2010 - 3:06 am

I like your perspective! I came from the other end where 20 years later holidays are still a battle- and the ex couples can not tolerate being in a single room together. I think that is rediculous!

Way to go Mom for making happy, healthy choices for your family! And…no worries about being to Jerry for us~ I think the fresh view on relationships and family relationships is exactly the encouragement somen (most) need these days!

You are pretty great! Remember that!

Kim April 20, 2010 - 3:23 am

Life is what you make it! Right?


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